Kids are different, often VERY different. And your children will have different relationships with you and Daniel. It’s totally normal - just look at how different you and your sister are, and the different relationships you each had with your parents. I get the sense that your sister was closer to your mother, and you were closer to your father. Your kids just have different personalities. Your job as a parent is to give your children a safe place to develop into the best versions of themselves they can be - there is no “right” way to do this, and you will fuck up from time to time. Every parent does. So long as the love and support is there, you’ll do just fine.
I think part of parenting is constantly wondering if we’re over correcting for the mistakes of our parents. As the parent of two radically different children who are now adults, to me it feels like their true personalities came from within, versus anything my wife and I did as parents. And when/if my kids have children I’m sure they’ll agonize over trying to do better than we did.
It’s just the greatest cycle. My eldest just graduated high school today and your post really brought me back to those nap times where my arm would fall so asleep I thought I’d never feel it again, but I wouldn’t dare move it bc their little head was on it and that little head was so asleep. Thanks for the read
My kids were so different, one clingy, one not snuggly. My advice, take the snuggles while you can and give space when they need it. I never felt like a great parent, I felt impatient and overwhelmed a lot. But my kids knew I was there for them and we had a home that felt safe and consistent.
I think that is a key to happy kids. You are doing a great job!
Kids are different, often VERY different. And your children will have different relationships with you and Daniel. It’s totally normal - just look at how different you and your sister are, and the different relationships you each had with your parents. I get the sense that your sister was closer to your mother, and you were closer to your father. Your kids just have different personalities. Your job as a parent is to give your children a safe place to develop into the best versions of themselves they can be - there is no “right” way to do this, and you will fuck up from time to time. Every parent does. So long as the love and support is there, you’ll do just fine.
I think part of parenting is constantly wondering if we’re over correcting for the mistakes of our parents. As the parent of two radically different children who are now adults, to me it feels like their true personalities came from within, versus anything my wife and I did as parents. And when/if my kids have children I’m sure they’ll agonize over trying to do better than we did.
It’s just the greatest cycle. My eldest just graduated high school today and your post really brought me back to those nap times where my arm would fall so asleep I thought I’d never feel it again, but I wouldn’t dare move it bc their little head was on it and that little head was so asleep. Thanks for the read
i am newly coming to the idea of knowing people, because i feel i domt (i dont know myself, how could i know others?).
why are you who you are, not just how do you behave.
and also the affect of reflecting people, not in a defining/presumptuous way, but a searching, attentive way.
you do it well with the people on your show.
can you do that with your son?
My kids were so different, one clingy, one not snuggly. My advice, take the snuggles while you can and give space when they need it. I never felt like a great parent, I felt impatient and overwhelmed a lot. But my kids knew I was there for them and we had a home that felt safe and consistent.
I think that is a key to happy kids. You are doing a great job!